Poet John Donne wrote, “No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent.” Most people struggle with loneliness from time to time, but in some cases, the fear of being alone can keep a person trapped in an unhealthy relationship. Unfortunately, it is not uncommon for someone to stay in a bad marriage because he or she cannot stand the idea that he or she could end up alone after a divorce. This can lead to unhappy, toxic, or even abusive situations.
Signs You Are Staying in a Relationship for the Wrong Reasons
Mental health and family experts agree that agree that a romantic relationship should be beneficial to both people involved. It should be based on mutual respect and shared goals while offering happiness and strength to each partner. When a relationship is broken to the point that these qualities no longer exist, it is in the best interest of both parties to end things—even if a divorce is necessary. There are some warning signs that may indicate that your current relationship is in danger or possibly beyond repair, including:
- You act differently or “not yourself” when you are around your partner;
- You do not enjoy spending time with him or her anymore;
- You dread coming home from work when he or she is home;
- You spend time fantasizing about other people in your life and what it would be like to date them;
- You feel like you would leave the relationship if you found another suitable partner;
- When you imagine the future, your spouse is not in the picture;
- You do not feel safe expressing your needs or desires to your spouse;.
- You feel like you have nowhere you can go;
- You take “breaks” or find yourself in a pattern of breaking up and getting back together with your partner. If you are married, these could be repeated “trial separations”; and
- You simply are not happy when you are with your partner.
If you have seen your relationship reflected in this list, it may be time to consider taking action. Leaving an unhealthy, unsatisfying relationship is one of the most courageous things a person can do for himself or herself. It is tremendously difficult to operate outside of your comfort zone, and ending a long-term relationship or marriage can be especially hard.
While you may fear being alone, you do not need to navigate the process of divorce all by yourself. We are here to help. Contact an experienced St. Charles divorce attorney and get the guidance you need. Call 630-377-7770 for a free consultation with a member of our team today.