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Dating Tips for Divorced Parents

dating, St. Charles family lawyerGoing through a divorce is a painful process. Fortunately, for many people who suffer through the end of a marriage, there is a better life waiting for them. Many people who divorce make the most of their new life. This often includes starting to date again. While dating after your divorce could have a positive effect on your happiness and self-esteem, there are some things you should keep in mind, particularly if you are a parent. Do Not Rush into a New Relationship The end of any relationship leaves a person with a feeling of loneliness. It is understandable that someone who is ending his or her marriage would desire intimate companionship again. Although most attorneys advise clients not to date while a divorce is in process, there is virtually no legal risk to dating after a divorce is finalized. Even so, many newly-divorced individuals are not ready for a relationship immediately. A divorce often leaves emotional damage that takes time to heal. Children are also left with feelings of sadness and confusion when their parents divorce. They too need time to heal. Boundaries and Consistency Most parenting experts recommend that after a divorce, children thrive with predictability. So much has changed in their life due to the divorce. They may be living in a new house, attending a new school, or getting used to switching between their two parents’ homes. Consistency and healthy boundaries are important when starting to date again as a parent. Ideally, both parents would reach an agreement that new partners will not be introduced to your children too quickly. Children whose parents have recently divorced are often suspicious or afraid of a new romantic partner in their parent’s life. They may worry that one of their parents is being replaced. Because of this, it is best to wait an appropriate amount of time before bringing your new romantic partner into your child’s life and to do so slowly. Mind Your Own Business—Unless… …your children are in danger. Once you are divorced, you have no input on when, who, or how your former spouse chooses to date. Of course, if your children seem troubled by your ex’s new relationship or you have a legitimate reason to believe that they are in danger or are being exposed to inappropriate behavior, you may need to say something. If you have a reasonable relationship with your former spouse, express your concerns to him or her. If not, you may need to take your matter back to court and seek an amendment of your parenting time schedule. Seek Compassionate Legal Advice If you have concerns about the process of divorce or how a parenting arrangement could be impacted by the actions of either parent, contact an experienced Kane County family law attorney. At Bochte, Kuzniar & Navigato, P.C., we proudly help clients find the post-divorce happiness they deserve. Call 630-377-7770 for a free consultation today.   Sources: http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/dating-after-divorce https://www.healthychildren.org/English/family-life/family-dynamics/types-of-families/Pages/Dating-After-Divorce.aspx http://www.huffingtonpost.com/christina-pesoli/rules-of-engagement-setti_b_3613901.html

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